Sep 02 , 2020
We have enough going on in our day to day lives without letting the small things get to us. Worrying about the little things can affect all aspects of your life and stop you being the happy go lucky person that you really are.
There’s no reason to let these things hold you back in life so give yourself permission to let go of these worries and focus more of our time and energy elsewhere.
There’s lots of different tools to stop yourself worrying all the time but here’s 5 helpful tips:
1. How we look
Everyday we’re faced with photoshopped images of beautiful young people and unrealistic ideals of beauty. Even our social media is littered with new filters to make ourselves look younger and cover all imperfections.
Being bombarded with all of this can make it super difficult not to criticise your own appearance daily.
Despite what the magazines and adverts may portray, ageing is just a normal part of everyone’s life so it’s about time we embraced it!
So instead of falling victim to societies pressures and buying every new moisturiser and serum, spend a couple of moments each day telling yourself that you are beautiful - just the way you are!
Our wrinkles and stretch-marks are reminders of where we have been and what we have been through, don’t erase them!
And remember, behind every perfect picture we see on social media there have been many takes, edits, filters and even photoshop - so stop worrying and let’s get on with enjoying our lives!
2. Things we can’t change
We constantly find ourselves worrying about things that have happened in the past or that may happen in the future.
When we focus all of our energies on these negative thoughts, we don’t give ourselves permission to live in the present. We miss what’s happening around us and don’t find joy in the day to day.
We can’t change the past and although there may have been decisions that we regret or question now, there’s literally nothing we can do about it!
That relationship might have been a mistake, but it has made us who we are today. That job may not have turned out to be the right one but look how much we learned from it!
It’s always a good idea to plan for the future but, when we focus too much on it, we miss out on all the amazing things happening around us. We can make positive decisions today that will affect our tomorrow but it’s important not to lose sight of the present.
So, stop concentrating on all of the things that we can’t control and just enjoy living in the moment 💜
3. Comparing ourselves to others
Nobody is perfect but when we look on social media it certainly seems like some people are!
It’s hard not to compare ourselves with others when our Facebook and Instagram are covered with photos of flawless families, airbrushed beauties and the ideal lives. We have to remind ourselves that people only post what they want others to see, so that immaculate family dinner you’re seeing on your feed might have ended with an argument, but we’ll never know!
Watching our neighbours have that new TV delivered or get an extension on their house can easily spark jealousy but trying to copy those around us can be costly and have a negative affect on our own lives.
Do we really need that fancy new laptop when the old one works? Are we just trying to show off to those around us? It’s important not to live beyond our means just so that we compete with the Jones’s.
Trying to keep up with the neighbours or emulate people we see online can be super damaging to our mental health so try to remember that no one expects you to be perfect.
Surround yourself with friends and family that love you as you are. Once we can stop comparing ourselves to unrealistic ideals, we’ll find that we’re so much happier with our own lives.
Having a To-Do list can be super helpful when running our everyday lives, but we can’t allow it to control us. We don’t need to fill every second of the day and it’s important to set aside some time to relax and do absolutely nothing!
As satisfying as it is to tick off that task on your list, we mustn’t punish ourselves for not getting things done. More often than not life gets in the way so if the little things get pushed down the list, then so be it!
Living by a schedule can take the spontaneity out of life so use lists and planners to help you organise yourself but don’t let them take over.
As much as we all love watching other people’s drama play out on reality TV, when it edges into our own lives it can only be damaging.
We all have lots going on, we have bills to pay, jobs to work, houses to manage and families to take care of so by allowing other people’s drama into our minds we take away from the important things.
Obviously we want to help those around us, especially our close friends and family but you can still be a good friend to someone without allowing their problems to take over your life. So listen, give advice when needed but don’t let other people’s drama take over.
Hopefully these points can be a starting point for you to focus on positive parts of life and stop sweating over the small things. We have so many things to be thankful for so let’s stop worrying and start enjoying!